Though we can’t change our needs, we can change our expectations to our needs, which can prevent much of the conflict, frustration, and disappointment we often experience in our relationships.

Don’t worry so much about why you may attract certain people into your life. Focus more so on why you tolerate their behaviors.

Multiple factors can influence the development of our attachment style, with alcoholic parents (one or both) being one of them.

Understanding how our attachment systems work and why we feel, think, and behave as we do regarding distance and disconnection can help us approach our challenges healthily and productively.

Do you struggle with relationship ambivalence—Meaning, confusion and indecision regarding matters of the heart?

Sharing experiences with having an anxious attachment style, learning to let go of control, prioritizing needs, healing from heartache and abandonment trauma, and understanding how attachment styles impacts so many significant areas of life.

Just because you have insecure thoughts does not negate your progress in developing a secure attachment style.

Do you struggle with distinguishing what is anxiety versus what is your truth?

If so, you are not alone!

Do you struggle with distinguishing what is anxiety versus what is your truth?

If so, you are not alone!

Navigating a break-up is hard as it is. However, when we consider how our attachment style plays a significant role in the unfolding, it can give us great clarity and direction regarding the experience.

A question I get asked often is, “Can we change our attachment style?” Many people are quick to answer “yes.” However, they don't discuss underlying factors that make the process more complex for those with insecure attachment styles.

Generally speaking, relationships won’t feel easy breezy, even if we’re partnered with secure individuals. This is because we have been conditioned to view love as “unsafe” and, therefore, must make a conscious effort (sometimes daily) to challenge these engrained patterns.

Do you sometimes feel ashamed for how you experience love? You wonder—Why can’t I just be happy? Why can’t I feel content all the time? Why do I feel like this? Why do I think like this? Why do I react like this? I can help you make some sense of these questions.

“If Anxious And Avoidant Attachments Are So Different When It Comes To Love, Why Are They Often Attracted To Each Other?”

Learning about attachment styles has been transformative in my life and my relationships.