Ep.58/ Why Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Attract Each Other
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“If anxious and avoidant attachments are so different when it comes to love, why are they often attracted to each other?”
This is one of the most common questions I receive. It's also the most common relationship dynamic I cater to in my attachment coaching practice.
There are many reasons why people come together and stay together. However, from an attachment perspective, it can explain some underlying psychological factors to this attraction.
In this week's podcast episode, I break down some of these reasons for you.
We talk about….
-How anxious and avoidant attachment differences can be alluring to each other.
-The concept of the "golden shadow” and discovering undeveloped aspects of ourselves through others.
-The chemical release from the push-pull dynamic and the emotional addiction to the highs and lows.
-Attraction to familiarity.
-The opportunity for healing within this relationship dynamic.
Can this duo have a successful relationship?
Of course! I would say it's pretty 50/50 in what I’ve experienced in my practice.
It all depends on the couple's willingness to understand each other's differences and support each other's needs.
