Attachment coaching to become your most secure self
An action-oriented approach to healing that helps you break unhealthy relationship patterns and build the mindset, habits and emotional security of secure attachment.
LMFT · Author · Host of Let's Talk Attachments
Secure Me do?
Where are you on your journey?
Take the free quiz to understand your patterns in love and where to begin.
Take the quiz →Self-pacedThe Secure Self ToolkitScripts, a trigger guide, a 30-day plan and 18 meditations for the moments you feel triggered.
Grab your kit →8 weeks · 1:1Personalized coachingWork with Jessica to change your patterns in real time, in your actual dating life or relationship.
Explore coaching →Understanding your pattern isn't enough
Healing attachment wounds requires more than understanding your attachment style. It requires learning how to consistently embody secure attachment.
Traditional therapy
- Often more process-oriented
- Focused on insight and exploration
- Understanding the past
Jessica's coaching
- Action-oriented and solution-focused
- New behaviors practiced between sessions
- Meaningful change, now
The focus is not simply understanding why a pattern exists, but learning how to change it.
The My Secure Self Method®
A step-by-step path to identify and strengthen the secure version of you: the mindset, habits, emotional regulation, communication, boundaries and self-trust of secure attachment.
What would Secure Me do?
Through the My Secure Self Method® and this one question, you learn to interrupt old attachment patterns and practice new ones in real time: in every text, every date and every hard conversation.
Work with Jessica
Let's Talk Attachments
Honest conversations about anxious, avoidant and fearful avoidant patterns, dating, relationships and what it really takes to become more secure.
Tune inReal change, in real relationships
"It's been almost two years since I had my one on one sessions with Jessica and I'm now finally in a healthy relationship where vulnerability and communication are at the forefront and where anxiety has not arose once."
Sophie B.
"I had previously been to therapy, multiple times, with different therapists and was never able to truly learn the necessary coping skills to change certain behaviors. Within 2 months she was able to show me why I react to things in certain ways, and gave me the confidence to implement the changes."
Michelle B.
"I have learned how to self-soothe, reflect on my needs, and use strategies to operate from a secure version of me with your help. I truly value all of your insights and guidance."
Priyanka S.
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