Ep.68/ How I Navigate the Distance in My Relationship (Anxious - Avoidant Dynamic)
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If you follow me on my podcast or Instagram, you probably know that my partner and I have somewhat of an unorthodox relationship, as we sometimes spend months apart. This distance is due to the nature of his work, which requires a lot of travel. And though we are making strides to build a future that consists of more togetherness, the disconnection thus far has brought many challenges to our relationship.
Attachment science tells us that disconnection breeds anxiety. This is because when we feel disconnected, many of our needs are going unmet. Naturally, when we're in a long-distance relationship or a relationship with someone with an opposite attachment style (aka anxious and avoidant attachments), we will feel more triggered due to our unmet needs.
Understanding how our attachment systems work and why we feel, think, and behave as we do regarding distance and disconnection can help us approach our challenges healthily and productively.
As promised, I recorded a podcast episode sharing…
-How we've navigated our 6-year “long distance” relationship thus far.
-The challenges that come with the distance as a couple who veers towards secure attachment with anxious and avoidant tendencies.
-The anxiety that comes with connection to disconnection continually.
-How to gauge compatibility based on your attachment needs.
-Questions you can ask yourself to assess the commitment and health of your long-distance or anxious-avoidant relationship.
