Ep.87/ An Inside Look into the Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style Mind With Licensed Therapist Patch McCormick
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Do you wonder what people with an avoidant attachment style think about when it comes to matters of the heart and, most importantly, why they behave the way they do?
If so, you're in for a treat!
Today on the podcast, I interviewed Patch McCormick, a former ad man who has become a relationship therapist for men, couples, and groups. He helps men earn secure attachment by using a combination of IFS, EMDR, CBT, and various somatic tools.
What makes this conversation extra special is that he shares his personal experience with having a dismissive avoidant attachment style and his process of becoming more secure.
In this episode, we talk about:
-HOW OUR HYPERMASCULINE SOCIETY REINFORCES THE DISMISSIVE AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT STYLE CHARACTERISTICS AND BEHAVIORS.
-THE IMPORTANCE OF NORMALIZING MALE EMOTIONALITY.
-COMMON DISMISSIVE AVOIDANT FEARS HINDERING THEM FROM COMMITMENT.
-WHAT MAKES A “SAFE PARTNER” AND MOTIVATES THEM TO CHANGE.
-DEBUNKING THE MISCONCEPTION THAT DISMISSIVE AVOIDANTS DON'T HAVE FEELINGS AND DON'T WANT RELATIONSHIPS.
-WHY AVOIDANTS ARE SUBCONSCIOUSLY ATTRACTED TO ANXIOUS ATTACHERS (AND VICE VERSA).
-HOW AVOIDANT AND ANXIOUS ATTACHERS CAN ACTUALLY SERVE AS CATALYSTS FOR EACH OTHERS INDIVIDUAL GROWTH AND HEALING.
-HOW TO BEST DETERMINE WHEN TO STAY OR LEAVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH AN AVOIDANT ATTACHER.
-STRATEGIES PATCH HAS USED TO OVERCOME HIS AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT STYLE AND EARN SECURE ATTACHMENT.
I truly believe that Patch’s vulnerability and professional perspective on this conversation can help you better understand yourself if you identify with the dismissive avoidant attachment style and your loved ones who have this attachment style. Enjoy!
