1:1 coaching
10 week package

ATTACHMENT
COACHING

Transforming the way you experience love.

◖ WELCOME ◗

 If you were guided here, you already have some awareness of the significant role your childhood and prior life experiences have had on your adult relationships…

✓ You’ve noticed certain trends in who and how you date.

✓ You’ve experienced repeating patterns in how you operate within your relationships.

✓ You desire love and connection, but depending on your Attachment Style, fear that it will either abandon, control or betray you.

 ✓ You’ve done some research and have even gone to therapy, but are still having trouble putting the information into proper action.

Although you have insight around the problem(s) that needs to be addressed, you need guidance on the solution—Someone who can help you connect the pieces...Someone who can provide you with a proven framework and actual tools to help you heal and transform your attachment wounds right now!

My name is Jessica Da Silva and I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Attachment Coach specializing in helping adults re-establish the way they experience love by using the Attachment Style framework.

After experiencing 15 years of multiple toxic relationships, I was determined to heal my insecure ways of experiencing love. I wanted to experience truly satisfying relationships and to finally put an end to the unhealthy patterns that ran down my family line.

I knew however that in order to change these learned ways of experiencing intimacy, I would have to make myself and my healing a priority.

After ending my last (and final) unhealthy relationship years ago, I enrolled into a graduate program for Marriage and Family Therapy and immersed myself in the world of self-development. This experience helped me realize:

That we can all change…

That our past does not have to define our future…

That we don’t have to repeat the same patterns as our family members…

That there are much healthier ways to exist in the world…

And that we can all experience healthy, strong relationships by embodying a more secure attachment style.

Since then, I have taken all that I learned from becoming a Marriage and Family Therapist and have broken off to do my own thing as an Attachment Coach, helping hundreds of people transform the way they experience love through practical, evidence based strategies.

NO MORE JUST TALKING ABOUT YOUR PROBLEMS, LET’S ACTUALLY DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!

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WHAT ARE ATTACHMENT STYLES AND HOW CAN IT HELP YOU CHANGE THE WAY YOU EXPERIENCE LOVE?

Attachment Theory is a widely used therapeutic approach pioneered by Psychologist John Bowlby in 1969 to explain how people relate to one another. By closely studying the interactions between young children and their primary caregivers, Bowlby noted distinct behaviors that each child exhibited depending on the attachment to their parent, those 4 Attachment Styles being Anxious (Preoccupied), Dismissive Avoidant, Fearful Avoidant (Anxious-Avoidant) and Secure Attachment. These specific attachment styles get passed down to us from our primary caregivers and become our personal ways of experiencing love.

ATTACHMENT STYLES BREAKDOWN

SECURE ATTACHED

Those who are Securely Attached, I like to refer as “The Anchor”. The reason being is that these individuals are generally grounded in who they are, their needs, their values and their ways of providing support to themselves. Securely attached individuals tend to have trusting, long-term relationships. They generally have a positive self-image and give & receive love in a healthy and balanced way.

ANXIOUS ATTACHED

Those who are Anxious Attached, I like to refer to as “The Romantic”. These individuals are highly sensitive and crave deep connections. They tend to have a self-sacrificing nature, which usually overrides their own needs and desires. In their relationships, they fear being rejected or abandoned which drives their people-pleasing habits, their constant need for reassurance and validation. These insecurities leave them feeling emotionally unstable and desperate in their relationships.

DISMISSIVE AVOIDANT

Those who are Dismissive Avoidant, I like to refer to as “The Rookie”. From the outside, these individuals appear self-sufficient, independent and like they have it “all together”, but beneath it all, they are disconnected from their emotional world. They desire love and connection (which is why they are highly attracted to “The Romantics”), however they have difficulties connecting to and navigating their own emotions. This disconnect causes them to maintain strict boundaries, be emotionally distant, and have a hard time opening up to their partners and maintaining those relationships.

FEARFUL AVOIDANT

Those who are Fearful Avoidant, I like to refer to as “The Rebel”. A person with a Fearful Avoidant attachment style lives in an ambivalent state of wanting closeness/connection and then wanting distance. As Katy Perry so perfectly put it: “You’re hot then your cold, you’re yes then you’re no, you’re in then you’re out, you’re up then you’re down…” YUP! Sounds about right.

Fearful Avoidant’s experienced deep traumas and enmeshment within their family. They have the capacity to love and connect deeply to other’s, however have a deep rooted fear that they will be betrayed or taken advantage of. These core woundings generally lead to painful or sometimes abusive relationships, as well as self-sabotaging behaviors.

It’s important to note that these attachment styles are dimensional states of being. Although you share common tendencies with 1 or 2 of the 4 styles, you are not forever tied to any category. You can and will fluctuate from each category depending on certain people you date, traumas or healings you experience, as well as significant life events that are destined to occur. In this program, you will learn the re-programming processes to transition from an insecure to secure attachment style!

ADVANTAGES OF DOING THIS COACHING IF YOU ARE SINGLE:

  • A deep understanding of how you give and receive love.
  • Insight into your dating patterns: Who you’re attracted to and why you tend to be attracted to those types of people.
  • What to look for and what to avoid in a potential partner based on your specific attachment needs.
  • How to identify someones attachment style within the first few interactions and how you can use that insight to better navigate the dating the scene.
  • Simple re-programming techniques to heal and transform your attachment style.

ADVANTAGES OF DOING THIS COACHING IF YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP:

  • Having a deep understanding of you and your partners attachment style: How you both give and receive love.
  • Insight on your triggers and needs within the relationship, as well as your partners.
  • How to communicate your needs to your partners specific Attachment style in a way that will make you both feel seen and heard.
  • How to set and enforce boundaries.
  • How to emotionally self-regulate in times of pain and disconnect.
  • Confidence in staying or leaving a relationship.
  • Simple re-programming techniques to heal and transform your attachment style.

ADVANTAGES OF DOING THIS COACHING IF YOU WORK IN THE HELPING PROFESSION:

  • Having a scientific framework to better understand your clients emotional wounds, fears and mental blocks that are preventing them from getting to their desired goals.
  • Proven (and practical) psychological strategies to help your clients heal their attachments and therefore their relationship to self and others: Worksheets, meditations, re-programming techniques & self-love practices. All of which are yours to keep and use in your practice!
  • A language to help your clients identify and communicate their unique needs and desires.
  • Confidence in helping your clients reach their desired outcomes.
  • Professional dynamic between you and client.
  • A large collection of resources and scientific research to support your healing work.

Having this knowledge is VITAL.

When we shift our attachment style, it not only reflects in our romantic relationships, but how we relate to everything in our life!

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

10 Week Coaching Breakdown

SESSION 1: UNDERSTANDING THE IN'S AND OUT'S OF YOUR ATTACHMENT STYLE

In order to make the changes we want to see within ourselves and our relationships, it’s crucial to first understand who we are and why we do the things we do.

Attachment Theory gives us a framework and a language to understand our thoughts, feelings and behaviors.

It gives us insight into our patterns, our insecurities, our triggers and our unique relationship needs.

In this session, I will give you a blueprint to understand these different aspects of your attachment style in order to cultivate  self-awareness and clarity moving forward.


SESSION 2: DEVELOPING YOUR SECURE SELF IDENTITY

In this session, you will learn what a secure attachment looks like and scientific proof that states why YOU CAN ALSO shift from an insecure to a secure attachment style!

This section will help you get crystal clear on the secure version of yourself you will begin embodying.

You will be equipped with worksheets, guides and a visualization practice to help re-program your subconscious mind to operate from a more secure identity.



SESSION 3: RECONNECTING TO YOUR FEELINGS AND NEEDS

As an anxious attachment, you often lose yourself in relationships. This is mostly because you never really had the opportunity to know yourself.

Perhaps you were too busy trying to meet the needs of your caregiver(s), that you neglected your own in the process…Or perhaps you had to “be a certain way” or “do certain things” in order to get the love and approval you craved.

Whatever the circumstance, it caused a disconnect between you and your innate needs & desires.

In this session, you will begin to understand the human language of feelings and needs. When we can understand the nature of our emotions, we can better soothe ourselves.

Instead of feeling anxious about your emotions, you will be able to identify the need behind this discomfort, and most importantly, how to move away from self-neglect and into self-honor.

This is where you learn how to clearly communicate your needs and how to begin meeting your own needs as well.

By honoring your needs and feeling comfortable meeting them, you build self-confidence, self-respect and self-trust.

SESSION 4: BREAKING CO-DEPENDENCY AND ESTABLISHING HEALTHY BOUNDARIES

As an anxious attachment, you struggle with co-dependency and setting boundaries.

With co-dependency, we lose our power by heavily relying on others to meet our needs. In this section, you will learn how to create healthy interdependence versus co-dependence.

In this process, you will also learn how to set healthy boundaries in order to prevent resentment, burnout and dissatisfaction in your relationships.

SESSION 5: REFRAMING YOUR INSECURE THOUGHTS INTO SECURE BELIEF SYSTEMS

In this session, you will go from becoming aware of your sabotaging thinking patterns to actually doing something about them.

So often I have people come to me saying they’ve gone to therapy and know what their challenges are, but they still don’t know how to change.

In this section, you will get my 4 Step Secure Reframe Process to help you shift your insecure thinking patterns into secure belief systems.

These steps are comprised from some of my favorite evidence based approaches: Mindfulness, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy and Solution Focused Therapy. These steps are simple to implement, yet profoundly effective. It’s a tool you will use with any challenging thought that comes your way.

SESSION 6: SELF RE-PARENTING AND HEALING ATTACHMENT TRAUMA

Self-Reparenting is a process of giving ourselves the love and support we didn’t get from our attachment figures and healing those relational experiences.

 In this process, you will learn to:

 -Love and care for yourself.

-Create more positive self-talk.

-Learn to accept yourself.

-Regulate your emotions by soothing your nervous system when triggered.

-Increase your self-esteem.

-Re-work bad habits.

-Become more independent and self-reliant.

-Learn healthy conflict communication.

SESSION 7: MEETING YOUR SHADOW AND RECONNECTING TO LOST PARTS OF YOU

In this session, you will learn how to form a new relationship with some of the unlikeable, unreasonable, wounded parts of your psyche in order to integrate new patterns in your life.

We often lose touch with aspects of ourself in order to be loved and accepted by others.

And if you have an Anxious Attachment Style, this separation from Self is even more prominent.

 Shadow work helps us bring these repressed parts of our humanity to light (to consciousness), so that we can begin aligning with our true, authentic Self.

SESSION 8: MINDFUL SELF-COMPASSION

Becoming securely attached requires a change in patterns, but in that process, it takes patience and A LOT of self-compassion.

In this session, you will learn mindful self-compassion techniques to help guide you through life with more grace and ease.

These building blocks will be the cherry on top! Tools that will serve as your secure base forever.

SESSION 9: PROCESSING SESSION

This session is used to process and integrate everything you’ve learned thus far.

SESSION 10: PROCESSING SESSION

This session is used to process and integrate everything you’ve learned thus far.

WHATS INCLUDED IN THE COACHING PACKAGE:

✓ Ten one-on-one 60 minute video coaching calls

✓ A personalized Attachment Style Blueprint

✓ Unlimited email support from me during our 10 weeks together

✓ Lifetime access to all of my e-courses (Value $5000+)

✓ Resources that will support your healing process

10 WEEK 1:1 COACHING PRICE

PAYMENT PLAN OPTIONS

PAY IN FULL $3500

3 MONTHLY PAYMENTS $1224

6 MONTHLY PAYMENTS $612

Note: Extended months include a 5% interest charge already included in the above prices.

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